Month: March 2014

The Art of Sibling Rivalry

They say that if you want to really get to know someone, you have to spend a lot of time with them. But you can only learn so much about someone by meeting them in a certain place at a certain time, and building a relationship from there.

I think that is why siblings can be so important.


Siblings get to see the sides of you that not every one else would see. They get to know the things about you that you don’t, or won’t, share with others. It’s hard to hide things from siblings, but that’s a good thing. That’s how you keep each other in check.

My youngest brother, Matt, is moving to Texas this week, so I’ve been recalling many memories we’ve shared in just the past few years. We’ve seen some lows, some highs, and a staggering amount of changes. But we’ve managed to pull through. We’ve managed to stick to our principles and not let the craziness that is our world make us crazy in return.

We’ve always pushed each other to be stronger, smarter, and better people; not only to ourselves, but to everyone around us. Anyone who knows my family knows how proud I am of my younger brother, and my respect for him is not something that has just been handed out arbitrarily.

He has wholeheartedly earned it. 

I am very relieved to see that he is leaving this area and heading out to a new world, and I know he will embrace the opportunity that awaits him, and I trust that God will take care of things.

March Motivation

Every single day, I try to remind myself of one compelling fact that I have come to learn about life.

That fact is that you create it.

It is a simple but misunderstood truth, and it isn’t going to change. We are all born with free will. We create our lives. If we want to be loved, we need to start loving others. If we want people to be faithful to us, we have to faithful to others. If we want patience, we have to show patience to others. We can be the change that we want to see in the world. And that is something that no one can ever take away from us.

If you want to be okay with who you are, then start being okay with who everyone else is.


Find yourself, know yourself, and believe in yourself.

Because if you can’t, how can you expect anybody else to?

So when people ask you, “What is you purpose?”

You can say, “Yeah, I have one.”

“To love. To change. To listen. To speak. To learn. To live.”

“To make damn sure that ever person that I meet is affected positively by me.”

How do I do it? How can you do it?

Start now.

Be honest and genuine in everything that you do.

Forget what your parents told you, forget what your friends tell you, forget every piece of media you have seen that’s aimed at controlling you to believe anything you don’t truly believe in. Go outside of your comfort zone, meet people, ask questions, and find out for yourself what your purpose is. Live on principle. You can take control of your future by being true to yourself, and by being true to others.

Do not ever think that you aren’t good enough, or smart enough, or creative enough, or beautiful enough to do something extraordinary.

All you need to do is listen, learn, speak, and then act; to make our community a place where you’ll want to raise your children, and give them a template for how to raise theirs.

Today I challenge you to convince people that you’re genuine by the fire in your eyes, the passion in your voice, and, most importantly, the smile on your face.

Did you ever just suddenly get the impulse to tell someone how awesome you really think they are?

That’s my life; That’s how I feel most times of the day.

For most of my adult life, I’ve heard people complaining that the only thing that separates man from animals is that were conscious of our own eminent death. But I’m saying forget that. I’m here to say that what separates humans from animals is not the fact that we know we’re going to die, but the absolute truth that we are so conscious of the fact that we are alive. We see, feel, touch, taste, and smell; we have feelings, and then we have feelings about those feelings; we care for people around us and want to be loved and held and cared for. We can always see hope in life, love in hope, and life in love. Or at least we will always be looking for it.

Not just for ourselves, but for our brothers, sisters and children, and for every other living creature on the planet.